Balance and juggling isn’t even in the Bible!

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Seems I have never reached that magical point where my life is quiet, peaceful, slow, with all the details in my life organized. There are more balls in the air now than when our family was much younger!

Today as I was whizzing in the car to Kohl’s (afterall, I had a 30% coupon in my hot little hand) looking for jeans and a couple of things that Joy needed, all the while keeping in mind that she has a meeting I have to drive her to in an hour.

Also knowing that I have to pick up some medication for the sinus infection I have developed with an internal ear infection (going on since Michigan–five weeks ago) and have an appointment with friends to pray at 5 and then pick Joy up from her meeting, and then go back to Walmart for the things she will need while I am gone;

and then to a cooking class with Sarah and Joy– we signed up for a while ago, and then meeting friends who are flying in from out of town at their hotel at 9; finish packing and then leave for the airport with Clay and Sarah at 7:30 in the morning,

and I think–my life is not in balance–but I can still walk with God, have joy, enjoy my minutes and the ones in my life at each moment, and make it through one minute at a time.

My home is not in balance–I know that when we fly to 5 cities in 7 weeks, to host mom conferences,  that my house will get messier than usual and need a good cleaning when I get home. I understand that if I am going to be faithful to schooling when I am home and making meals and having quiet times in between all the prep for conferences–that things will pile up and go by the way side–but I also know I have a plan for getting it all together when I get home.

I know it will take all of us a few days just to sleep enough to have the energy to clean and straighten up–but I know that we will get to it and I will feel good about my home again.

I liked what a friend said to me, “The swinging hand on a clock is only in balance at one point while the fulcrum swings back and forth between the two sides.”

And so my life goes–in perfect balance, rarely, once in a while–but always swinging between the two tensions.

My life wasn’t in balance when I had 3 children under 5 and I had to nurse them and deal with ear infections and asthma.

My life wasn’t in balance very often amidst the 17 moves–6 times internationally–seemed often I was packing or unpacking–

My life wasn’t in balance when I had 3 teenagers and an elementary aged child who just wanted to play and read picture books,  while we were staying up late with our teens talking about all sorts of serious issues in life, and then getting up early with my wee, little fun one-with dark circles under my eyes.

And all the while these in my home wanted to eat, (which meant shopping, cooking and an endless stream of dishes) and wear relatively clean clothes and messes abounded–always cleaning and messing–straightening and cluttering. No balance but a lot of life and fun and discussions and work and corrections–a stream of life never ending, but flowing to yet another new challenge and season of life.

I think I would have been so much more content and joyful if I had just known at the beginning that life for me would not be balanced–but could always be meaningfulif I would just accept the limitations of each day, each season, each child, my marriage and my finances–none totally balance, perfect–but all a blessing–so that is what was going through my mind today as I was whizzing about.

I don’t think scripture promises balance–Jesus’s life was not balanced–he always had people chasing after him and someone was always criticizing him amidst the feeding of 5 thousands, healing lepers and forgiving prostitutes, holding children and blessing them and saying scathing things to the Pharisees–

Paul’s life was certainly not balanced–even keeled–amidst prison, ship wrecks, beatings, and teachings. Peter was traveling, teaching, being persecuted–yet all of these had joy, full hearts, love and time to reach out to and teach others.

So, I was contemplating today–that if I would just see this day and all that my puzzle brings as God’s will, I would be content, joyful and enjoy rest in the moments of my days.

Off to pick up Joy!

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  1. says

    I sit here with tears flowing because this is exactly what I needed to read today. I’ve had one of those days where everything was overwhelming…the cooking, dishes, feeding the baby, trying to homeschool, etc. I was beating myself up mentally because I can’t seem to get it all done….Then I read your post. Such timely words for me! Thank you for sharing from your heart. Your experiences and mentorship are such a blessing. My perspective is better now. Thank you!

  2. says

    Sally, thanks so much for this today. I am driving a few hours away to speak at a home school gruop tomorrow and there is prep for that to sidetrack me from getting every last thing done around the house or keeping up with every school assignment. I rarely travel out of town to speak (it’s been several years) so it’s worth it to me, but it’s so good to be assured that I don’t have to have every duck in the row before I go.

  3. says

    Now if I would take these wise words to heart every day. So it doesn’t take me until 40 to stop beating myself up for not having everything perfectly balanced all the time =) Thank you, Sally.
    And feel better soon!

  4. says

    Ooh, this is good! I tend to feel guilty because I’m no good at balance at all–I like being all or nothing, and chaos seems to reign a lot around here, but we sure do love life, and that’s what matters, right?–so the next time I feel condemnation come calling, I’m going to read this post!
    Blessings to you as you get ready to do your last conference for the season, and I’m praying that your infections clear up ASAP so that you’re able to get some good rest when you get home!!

  5. Amy says

    I am praying this round of antibiotics does the trick for you!
    Safe travels for you, too.
    Thank you again for your timely words and encouragement.

  6. Beth M says

    so much to do and you still write to encourage others! Prayers are sent your way for a great weekend and many moms hearts strengthened, safe travels for you all, and complete healing quickly! Much love to you all.

  7. says

    Awesome post! You are so right! We long for balance – or maybe it’s utopia on earth right? But the reality is life happens.
    We must learn to be content in every season – balanced and unbalanced! Thanks for a timely word!
    Courtney

  8. says

    I agree- recently I enrolled my 2 & 4 yr old sons in Mother’s Day out…so I could get some WORK done!!
    I end up running around for those 3 hours like wild woman out of control!!
    I needed to hear this!! Thanks for sharing- Praying your infections clear up soon!!
    I also enjoyed meeting you in Dallas!! It was my first- and definitely NOT LAST conference!! Look forward to next year- and bringing more ladies!!

  9. Charise says

    Oh Sally, it’s so true! I’m just a young woman with three little ones and I like my all my ducks in a row but God likes to move them out of place to keep me walking by faith and leaning on Him. Gotta love it! I am also encouraged at the realities of serving God whole heartedly….there isn’t a balance. Oh to continue to rest in Him and enjoy every moment with our sweet ones no matter how busy life is.

  10. Kymberly says

    I wonder where the concept of balance originated in Christian circles? I recall the command to moderation, which means restraining ourselves from excess. I remember the call to contentment, accepting each circumstance as Sovereign for its place in time. I can think of admonishments to orderliness, but do we really have a command to seek after balance, which implies a sense of control?
    Rather, I believe our life is to be lived in a state of horribly out-of-balance, exaggerated, and overwhelming LOVE! Horray for the life that is out of balance…

  11. Kathie Swenson says

    Thanks aunt Sally. Even those of us without kids needed to hear that today! We get busy in life and work and are not always balanced. Thanks, I really needed this!

  12. says

    Love the clock analogy! I have some friends (to whom I have compared myself for TOO LONG) who are the clock itself – living measured, even, regulated lives. I, however, am the pendulum, all the way. And you know what? Without the pendulum, there would be no clock, and without the clock, there would be no purpose for the pendulum. God made both kinds, “let us rejoice and be glad!” :)

  13. says

    I needed to hear this today. I’ve had 3 sick ones in my house and it’s gotten ummmm messy. But that’s life, messy, real, and hard work. Just because life is messy doesn’t mean I can’t glorify God!

  14. says

    Oh my goodness I just LOVED this post!!! So so true and it sure will save us frustrations if we could rid ourselves of the false idea of what balance is. Thank you!

  15. says

    Thank you Sally for these words. Recently when talking with a couple of women I started feeling discouraged with myself again when I said that life didn’t seem any simpler now that my kids are 10 and up than it did when I had 3 under 4, a teenage and a young adult daughter. Now I have an independent adult daughter, a young adult daughter and her daughter living with me, as well as a nearly 14 yo, 12 yo and 10 yo. The next few days passed with me wondering when will I get it together. Your words today are a balm. Thank you.

  16. says

    Love this: “I think I would have been so much more content and joyful if I had just known at the beginning that life for me would not be balanced–but could always be meaningful.”

  17. says

    LOVE. I am currently reading “The Mission of Motherhood”, and I cannot get enough of the truth you are sharing to mothers and wives all over. Thank you for always being honest and sharing His word!

  18. Jenna says

    I love this Sally. Thank you. I needed to read this after a day of wondering if I have made the right choices because I almost always feel like there is too much to do and not enough hours or energy to get it all done. I am encouraged after reading your post!

  19. cindy says

    There are just not words to express how thankful I am to read this post. For so long I looked for a mentor and God brought me to your blog. He has used this and so many of your words to speak to me and help me on this road of motherhood. Thank you for taking the time and sharing your Godly insight and experience. He is using you….

  20. Allyson says

    Oh Sally! How encouraging! I am a 40 year old mother of 2 little ones and I struggle with similar thoughts daily. I often feel a heavy burden of weariness with my daily routine and frustrated that I often lack the energy to keep everything in balance. My friend and I often talk about the frustrations of doing so much all the time and never feeling caught up. I suppose balance really is an illusion.

  21. Julie says

    This is so timely. I have spent the last 3 years, longing for a “quiet” life, which we had with 3 littles. But that quiet life now involves traveling to see family/visiting family, homeschooling and 4 kiddos. Have been praying about God’s will in all this the past week, so this post was so perfect. I pray I will learn to live fully with the interruptions and busyness and fully in quietness when I can have it. :)

  22. Brandy says

    Such a good reminder. I will die with things on my to-do list, but hey, I get to see God face to face at that point and that is ALL I will care about. So, why not just accept the limitations of this life and make sure I spend time with Him now. Lovely!

  23. Dena says

    You said it!

    Incidentally there’s a great, great, great natural antibiotic called GSE (Grapefruit Seed Extract). It works on any infections. I’ve used it on tooth infections and sinus infections, ear infections. You use 20 drops in about half a cup of OJ four times a day. It’ll knock out your infection in three or four days. I’d take it for one extra day for insurance. It hasn’t failed me yet. I hope you try it. Good stuff. You can find it in health food stores.
    I should warn you that it doesn’t taste good but it really works. And it has no side effects and you don’t have to worry about overdosing.

  24. Shelly Roy says

    Sally, Thanks for this reminder, as I face a possible move (again!) after four moves in 13 months I hoped we were settling in for awhile, but it looks like our Abba has another move in store for us; knowing that I can cultivate joy in the midst of what feels like chaos inside of me is refreshing.
    Praying for your infections to heal quickly!

  25. says

    Oh, this is just what I needed to read today (even if this post was written awhile ago.) So very relevant to me. Thank you for this wisdom, Now I pray I will be able to find more contentment with the understanding that life may never be balanced but it can always be meaningful.

  26. Mahogany says

    Thank you for the encouraging words. I really needed to hear them. I hope I can remember them on Monday when we start homeschooling again. Your blogs and books have helped me persevere during the tough seasons of motherhood and homeschooling.

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