Book Club: Dancing With My Father {Chapter Three} Giving up our Rights to Him

Myles Birkett

I have thought a lot lately about the nature of a child. A child, who is cared for and loved, generally trusts his father with all of the details of life. As a matter of fact, a secure child doesn’t even ponder the issues of life, but just lives into the moment, because he has not ever had to carry the issues of life.

And Jesus says,  “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”

Innocence, trust, pure in heart.

I think that as I look back over my own life, I can see that God has intervened, provided, taught, comforted and held me up even in the dark times.

Not all of the moments of my life in this world have been easy, many have been devastating. But I wish I had spent less time worrying, less time fretting or telling God my will. I know that He is good. I also understand that we live in a fallen place where evil abides and where Satan tempts and accuses and has stirred up people to turn away from God.

But now I see that nothing separates me from the love of God. Nothing.

How much easier it would have been if I had just released all of my own “carrying” of these burdens. It would have been so much better if I had understood that it was not for me to “figure out” all of the “whys,” but I so wish,  I had just left it up to Him, His will, His ways, His wisdom. My life would have held more peace, and I would have heard more of His whispers of comfort and felt more joy in living and resting in His strength and abiding love.

“God’s desire is for us to experience true joy and deep fulfillment. It must start, however, with the journey into the recesses of our heart. It is only as we release our hold on the things that we think we need to be truly happy, when we open our hands freely, that we experience true joy. We yield our demands and expectations to Him so that we may take His hand and let Him lead us into the dance of joy. He is the One who will teach us. But it requires a total relinquishment of self and a simple trust in a great God, simple faith to understand that He who created joy will lead us on the pathway that ends in the joy that will last forever.” ~ Sally Clarkson, Dancing With My Father

Here’s a question each of us must answer:  Are you willing to give away all that you think is valuable in order to find all that truly has worth?

We’re discussing chapter three of my book, Dancing With My Father, today at MomHeart Online! Join us?

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  1. says

    Such a valuable post! An advantage of being an older woman, which I am, is that I can look back over my life and see not only how God has woven my life together, but that often, He has carried me.

  2. Judy says

    I am just wondering who the artist is for the painting at the top of this post?
    I too am an idealist, so I am guessing that I am drawn to this idyllic scene of family life – though I am realist enough to note that amidst the childhood delight and exuberance, and the pensive young man, there is a hard working mother!
    May each of us find Him who is our true worth, as we let go of the seemingly valuable, today. Blessings.

  3. D :) says

    Thank you for this encouraging post. The past few months have been especially difficult, and i’ve had to cling to my daily quiet time, but God is so good & so faithful even when others aren’t. You’re right, we need to spend less time worrying over the what if’s…or even the why’s…when we know He holds all things securely in His capable hands.
    BTW, your book Educating the WholeHearted Child is such a blessing! :)

  4. anuradha says

    Thank you Sally for your prayer for us. Not only the wisdom you remind us how to live each day, also your prayer envelops my heart in warmth, encouragement, acceptance and divine love. This morning I stood above a difficult phone call with all the grace I could find within me and spoke with gentlest words. After reading your post, I feel God heard, and God understands.

  5. says

    Thank you for saying you are very idealistic, I am too! Once in my 20′s an older woman called me idealistic and made it sound like a curse word. I immediately thought “why would you want to be any other way?”

  6. says

    I love your blog!! It is so full of grace. Your last comment about giving up what we find valuable to get things of real worth is right where i am at. Thank you for asking a question that will change my life.

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