How amazing to see yourself reflected in the lives of your children. There have been moments when I so clearly see me reflected in the actions and expressions of my children. The way they stand and how they pace while chatting on the phone. The methods I use are even mirrored in how they tackle tasks and order their day…making checklists as reminders of the important things needing to be accomplished. Some days it’s like looking in a mirror.
Our children watch and mimic our actions, our attitudes, our loves and our distastes. Soaking them in like a dry sponge absorbs the water. When children are young, they want to be just like mommy, copycatting our actions just like those monkeys in the above illustration. It is endearing as they pretend to wash the dishes, work at the computer or drive the car while sitting in the back seat. However, as children grow into adulthood, the mimicking is no longer childlike copying. At some point in their maturing, children take ownership of what they have seen modeled and what they have practiced. What they mirrored as children, now makes up who they are as individuals.
Like the funny story of the mom that is asked why she cuts off the end of the ham and she replies because her mother did and her mother did, never realizing that her great grandmother cut the ham because her pan was too small…some traditions and approaches our children take with them into adulthood are harmless, even funny. But many attitudes and behaviors that have eternal significance. What they love, how they see God’s hand in the little things, their fears, their worth are, to some extent, learned from what we model as moms.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
I am not a perfect mom. Some days, my flesh reigns over my spirit and I forget my children are ‘taking notes.’ Some days, my eyes are fixed on the worldly tasks at hand and I lose sight of my Heavenly Father and His will for me as a mother, role model and trainer of my children. Days like these my selfish heart direct my attitudes and actions and I end up planting bad seed on fertile ground.
His mercies are new every day! His Grace is SUFFICIENT for me! Lamentations 3:22-23 & 2 Corinthians 12:9
When the Lord shows me glimpses of my heart reflected in my children’s actions I must take note. Sometimes it is a sweet “well done” from my Lord, and other times His gentle rebuke calls me to make a change. As I humble myself before my Loving Father, He forgives me, refines me, loves on me and gently leads me in His ways. The more time I spend with my Heavenly Father, the more His ways become my ways! I yearn for my ways to reflect Christ so that my children’s reflection of me looks more like Christ and less like my flesh. Just as Paul says in 1 Corinthians 11:1- Imitate me as I imitate Christ
Are my children imitating a mother that is imitating her Heavenly Father? I pray that I will so vibrantly reflect my Father’s Heart that my children reflect Him as well.
What do you see in the mirror of your children?