Today, I am going away for two whole days. A long time friend of mine, (a young man we have known since he was 15), works at a 5 Star Hotel and has arranged a beautiful, cozy, delightful place for me to escape for 2 days, so I can just spend time praying, reading, sleeping, eating and dreaming–pondering and planning for the season of life that is ahead. I feel like a little girl in a toy shop–I am so excited and anticipating this very rare time!
But I wanted to leave a few thoughts about starting the year out with freedom and joy–the freedom that comes from deciding to like who God has made me, understanding that it is enough and accepting my limitations. Dancing with my Father was about cultivating joy–choosing celebration and light and learning to dance to the rhythms He has already set in motion if I only hear His voice and see the beauty He has planted in my pathway. So I leave you a little bit of grace from my past posts and hope you will live in this freedom today and every day this year.
“And the work of righteousness will be peace and the service of righteousness quietness and confidence forever.” Isaiah 32: 17
I have come to really question truths like the ones above because they come across as universal and sound wise, but in the end, I have to say, “Is this law? Is it an unshakeable truth that applies to all moms at all times?” Or is it possible that there is grace for each mom to conduct her own symphony, so to speak, with her family, circumstances and children in mind. “It is for freedom that Christ set us free, therefore, keep standing firm that you may not be subject to a yoke of slavery.”
Now, I find that we are to use wisdom principles and have quiet times and grow in maturity and of course, I came to the conclusion that if I wanted to pass on my life and beliefs and vision to my children, I needed to be the one who invested time in them and won their hearts, out of the integrity of my heart.
But, seeing my children do well in life and love the Lord and us and continue growing is not as a result of a list of rules that I followed, but as a result of following the Lord, praying, obeying Him and seeking His wisdom and then living by faith and watching His grace. God is in charge and will work in and through the personality and circumstances of my life uniquely, If I walk it with Him.
There are so many wonderful teachers and speakers who have such a good heart and love the Lord and want to encourage. But the bottom line is the word of God is to be our ideal and not just “wisdom” from others that is extra-Biblical and not scripture–and I find God to be a better task master than most humans I have ever known.
My real desire in writing this article, though, is to give moms permission to be themselves. There is no “one right way”. Each of you has a different puzzle to solve–different children’s personalities, husbands and even a different personality yourself. Some of you are introverts and some extroverts. Some trained and educated in high spiritual values and some coming at it for the first time.
But the bottom line is, that as a wise woman, you need to figure out how you can best make it in the long run–loving God and loving your family, and finding ways to do this so that your own spirit is filled with life and joy.
You are just exactly the right person, the one who God picked to shepherd these children in ways that no one else could. So live in that freedom today and enjoy your own unique family culture. This is the day the Lord has made–rejoice in the moments and be glad.