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The UnWired Mom offers encouragement, vision, practicality, and a two-week challenge designed to equip you with healthy online habits so you can live fully present and purposeful in your real life.

I am so very excited to tell you about a new ebook today by Sarah Mae. She and others have known how concerned I am about the terrible effects the internet is having on our children. In The UnWired Mom, Sarah Mae has poignantly put her finger on the problematic issues for children and parents and she has given us hope and practical ways to move to more healthy choices. Sometimes, moms need to know how to return to a more natural life.

Recently, a friend asked me, “Sally, what did you do to occupy yourself and your children when you didn’t have the internet, media, blogs, facebook and gaming devices? My kids would be so bored.”

Engaged minds, vibrant hearts for God, godly character and moral strength in my children came from pointed intentionality. I do not believe I could have built these life attributes if I had been on the internet a great deal of time. To stretch our children’s brains and ability to think, we must live a real, not virtual life!

Engaging children in what is real–real books, real hero stories, dress-up clothes, art pencils and paint, gardening, cooking, carving, studying to master a musical instrument, discussing important ideas while sitting together on the porch drinking tea, hosting people, groups and bible studies for dinners, events, singing potlucks, camping on our porch under the stars, going on evening walks every night, holding game nights for friends, insuring an hour of quiet time and reading every day—these were many of our habits, but also our pleasures when I was raising all of my children–even Joy, who grew up in the era of cell phones and computers.

Children who are constantly entertained, spend hours each day on internet and media have slower brain function and retard some areas of their learning. Recently, I wrote a blog post that considered some of the havoc that our addiction to internet has created!

Research of every kind has suggested that media, constantly being indoors, over-entertainment, trying to manage children into little adults, too much exposure to sexual material and immoral values at an early age, is destroying the soul of children. They are being pushed and pulled and dragged from one place to another, endless activities, lessons that are supposedly “good” for them,  and forced to fit into the time boxes convenient to adults.  

This stress is wreaking havoc and creating horrendous results on a generation of children who are growing up with emotional adult illnesses at early ages, lower vocabulary, more depression, vastly growing obesity as a childhood disease, and so much more. Premature addiction to sexual images and news stories and acting out adult values is damaging to their souls. Innocence and purity of mind is healthy to becoming healthy adults.

(from Killing the Soul of Children Revisited)

I hope you will consider buying: The Unwired Mom by Sarah Mae

For many reasons, I am passionate about this subject and this book.

You will be encouraged to take a look at your own habits to consider how to move from wasting too much time on the internet to cultivating a more vibrant, real and satisfying life with your family. I hope you will buy The Unwired Mom today and begin a journey back to real life and less stress with your children. 

You can get a copy of The UnWired Mom for only $4.99 as a PDF or on Kindle.

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“Oh my, what an AMAZING read for moms! There is so much in this book that is 100% relevant to those who find themselves over using *any* sort of escape (reading or other hobbies included) OR even just struggling in being disciplined with parenting duties.”

Michelle, Amazon Review

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Comments

  1. GemmaH says

    Hi Sally, thanks for your great input into us as mums raising kids…I just went and got a copy of the ebook because although I don’t spend a great degree of time on the computer, when parenting gets tough I do tend to escape into something other than what I should be doing. Thanks for your encouragement!

  2. becca says

    I try to turn to sleep when I’m stressed or overwhelmed instead of mindlessness tv or internet. However, what I struggle with is molding creative minds through all those fun things you mentioned (good books, cooking, gardening, art, etc) when I have 4 children under 6yrs old. How do I include everyone… especially when there is a infant in the mix? Dear Sally (or anyone else really), do you have any references that I can look into on how to “deal” with this issue?

    • Sam says

      Hi Becca–MaryAnn Kohl’s books are great. The Artful Parent is a great website, too. Just a few ideas off the top of my head!

  3. Sam says

    This post really speaks to me. Years ago I got off facebook and stopped texting because I saw how sadly it drew my attention away from the precious moments of my baby daughter’s life. It really disturbed me, and it still disturbs every time I am out and see people’s faces buried in their gadgets. Especially children. Everything you have said, Sally, please keep saying it. It is so important. I
    Something I want to add, however, is that I truly believe that God gave all children the gifts of curiosity and wonder and creativity, and that when we give them free time, time in nature, and lots of love and encouragement, they will blossom right before our eyes. We don’t necessarily need a “plan” to make that happen all the time, although I think planning can lead to some great adventures. I just think we need to relax a little and remember who is in charge!

  4. says

    What a timely book. Our enemy has snuck in the backdoor and given us idols to carry around everywhere in our hands. It is scary how blind society is to the addiction.

    Looking forward to this read, I am very burdened over this topic!

  5. Ashley says

    Thank you so much for writing this, I am battling with it along so many more. I know we can log out and start living our life for real!

  6. Elizabeth says

    This is one of my passions! Preach it loudly! I find it is a continual fight in this present age, but we really can set our own boundaries for us and our children in order to achieve our goals for family life. We do not have to act as victims in our society. I believe the focus needs to be all the good things we want to fill our life with so that there just isn’t enough time for the time wasters, but at times we do have to take action and just say no. As mothers, we have the freedom to decide what our children are exposed to and should do that confidently. It is our responsibility. If kids are surrounded by great books and an inspiring environment with lots of wholesome activities for mind and body, they will occupy themselves with what we have provided them with. I am rather old fashioned and limit my kids to a half hour of computer per week besides what their school requires, and they are so full of creative ideas that they often forget to even request that allotted time in the week. This doesn’t happen by accident! I worked very hard to turn on their creativity and block the activities that stunt it while they were young, but the fruit is sweet. I love seeing all the learning they do on school break because they are conditioned to learn through living, be creative, and fill time wisely. I love the e-book by the way! I’m busy reading it.

  7. says

    I’m in the midst of reading this ebook right now and it is soooo needed! I raised one child in the pre-internet era – I remember when we got AOL and we were so excited – and my younger two have never known life without the internet. We used to do lots of fun things: we rode bikes, took walks, read books, played sports, visited friends. Nowadays we have to be very conscious of not only our own time online, but the time our kids spend on the computer. We set time limits and we monitor their activity constantly. In some ways I long for the simpler life like the one I had when I was a child, but time moves on and we have to move with it. The online world has a lot to offer. I’ve met lots of friends through blogging that I would never have had the opportunity to know otherwise. The key is learning to keep it in its place, and that’s something I’m still learning.

  8. Jenna says

    A couple of months ago I deactivated my Facebook account. It was a real problem for me in that it was my outlet during the day when I didn’t want to deal with real life. I didn’t realize though how big of a problem it had become until I no longer had it. Even now, when the days are feeling long or mundane or when I just would “rather not parent today”, I immediately think about FB and how I would love to browse through the comments rather than what I know needs to be done and that is, go straight to God. He is my strength, my companion when I am lonely, and He is ALL that I need to get through those “harder” days. I also want to be that example to my kids. If they can’t use their electronics whenever they want, then neither should I. I don’t think that FB is necessarily a bad thing nor do I think that everyone should be off, but I recognized that for me, there are many more positives to not having access to so much chatter. It was too easy to let the chatter be my comfort when what I really needed was more time chatting with my Lord.

  9. Jessica says

    In your post you mentioned something in passing that I wonder if you would expand on. You said that you had an hour of quiet time each day when your kids were little. I would love to do that but I don’t know where to start. What did that look like? What were the parameters? Was each child in a separate room? Did they have to stay in one place (like on their bed or something?) Did you have any kids with ADHD and did they have a hard time being still and quiet for an hour in the middle of the day? I would love to hear from any moms who have done this.

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