Ridding ourselves of darkness–Where Do You Cast Your Cares?


“Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7.

Most of us live through a mask of control where we carefully guard what we allow others to see. But deep within each of our hearts and souls, lurk fears, struggles, insecurity and inadequacy that comes from failing.

Yet, those who learn to cast off these dark feelings by replacing them with the truth of God’s love and word, will be able to pull aside the mask to operate from truth, humility and grace in relationship to others. Moving from fear to freedom is a process that requires years of practice in casting our fears away from ourselves and into His hands. It has taken me a while to move from the dark of fears and insecurities to the place of peace and rest.

Imagine yourself in a quiet, dark, and comfy bedroom. You are sleeping so soundly and contentedly, when, out of nowhere, your husband sits straight up in bed and starts to scream and rant about some unseen thing or situation that the dreamer is finding himself in. Your heart races as you are pulled from your sweet slumber while trying to calm your dear husband, but it is in vain. He can’t be woken, and he falls right back to sleep, not remembering a thing. Imagine this happening to you several nights a week, and on tired nights, numerous times. Each time it happens, you tell your dear loved one all about it the next morning, but he has no recollection and seems to be rested and happy. You get to the point where you are not as alarmed and just ride it out, like your least favorite roller coaster at an amusement park.


I wish the story was about my husband, but it is actually about me. For as long as my husband can remember, I have had night terrors. He has dealt with them as graciously as a heavenly saint sent from above. And, as long as I can remember, I have had no recollection of any such night terrors and am as happy as a clam each morning when I rise. I am SO thankful that my husband still likes to sleep in the same bed with me! Bearing with a spouse that has night terrors could possibly be classified under the whole “in sickness as in health” part of marriage.

To my recollection, there is no situation from my childhood or otherwise that causes my restless sleep. I did have a difficult childhood, but was never abused and was totally loved by my parents.

The only thing to make of it could be some form of worry, stress, or anxiety; and I do, in fact, have all three.

Worry, stress, and anxiety are so difficult to overcome. Let’s face it, if we were honest, we would all admit to suffering from at least one of the three on a regular–if not daily–basis. There is so much to worry about!

My worries have mainly stemmed from growing up in a broken, alcoholic family and having no earthly idea how to have a Christian home and raise kids who love God. When you grow up with no modeling and without a Christian example to follow, you are often a bit neurotic, struggling to find the perfect formula to raise kids who follow Christ. Well, after searching and trying to figure things out, I have come to the realization that there is no formula, no matter how hard we try to find it.

It all boils down to trusting God, following Him, and giving Him our cares and worries each and every day.

Trusting God seems so simple, but so challenging at the same time. When our children are growing up, there can be many difficult issues in the lives of our family that cause us to lose heart. It is often during these trying times that we have no idea where God is, and we often want to give up, to quit trying at all. Our marriages can be challenging, our children can be disobedient, and some of them can even start to question the existence of God. How disheartening!

It is comforting to look at God’s word and realize that many people in times past struggled with worry and fear. Throughout the Bible, we can see God telling us to trust Him. Look up the word “trust” in your concordance and see how many different verses there are that tell us to trust God. When my children were little, I would put some of these verses on index cards and keep them at my kitchen sink. I also have a chalkboard in my kitchen dedicated to writing encouraging verses that help me to focus on God and not on my own strength.

Struggling and worrying will probably follow me my whole life. After all, this is the broken place. We are not in heaven yet. There is a peace, however, in the midst of the storms and worries of this life that can be found only in God and his word. Spend time with God each day. Let God’s word fill your soul and mind so that, when the worries come, you will be able to cope as much as possible and rest in His care.

 In the words of Peter, the fisherman, who knew what it meant to cast: to “throw.”

“Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7.

Give your cares and worries each day to God and rest in His love and care for you, for it is wide and vast.


Deb Weakly: Mother of two beautiful and wholehearted children.

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  1. Stacey says

    Hi Deb! This was the verse in my devotion this morning too. You and I have discussed this before (worry/cares) and how each of our “fears” are different. Thanks for sharing this and reminding us that “It all boils down to trusting God, following Him, and giving Him our cares and worries each and every day.” It is a day to day thing, and sometimes I have to cast my cares hourly when it seems there is too much for me to handle. Miss you, but I am glad to keep up with you via your writings. :)

  2. Deb Weakly says

    Sweet Stacey,
    Thank you so much for your sweet words! They mean a lot :)
    You are so wise. I am so thankful to have someone else that feels that they need to walk with God hourly as well at times.
    Bless you!

  3. Jane Rattray says

    Hi, Dwb,
    Thank you so much for filling my heart and mind with Truth today. I desperately need this reminder to cast my anxiety on Him.

    • Deb Weakly says

      Thanks so much sweet Jane. :) It is so great to hear from you! I am so thankful for our time with you in Boston. :)
      Bless you!

  4. Mary says

    Thank you for this! I am trying to trust in three midst of a struggling marriage. I have a rather critical husband who is very quiet. He doesn’t say much but I tend to walk on eggshells when I am around him! I also have an autoimmune disease and have had many health issues in the last 2 years while trying to raise 2 preschoolers. I was just in my room praying for my husband and for God to help me love him, but came out and used a harsh tone with him just a few minutes later. I was feeling so frustrated then I read your article! Trust is the message God keeps sending me over and over; thanks for reminding me to rest in Him.

    • Deb Weakly says

      Dear Mary,
      Sometimes, life can be so challenging. God is with us. We are never alone and He asks us to trust Him with our troubles. I will be praying for you today.
      Love, Deb

  5. says

    This is so important to be reminded of. Seeking to rest our worries and fears with God is something we must choose to do daily often repeatedly because human temptation to do it our own way often overtakes. Thank you for writing so openly and honestly. I hope you don’t mind but I’ve shared this over on my blog too.

  6. says

    Thank you so much for your vulnerability and openness. I have been struggling through some anxiety-related issues lately and I saw this in my reader right before having to gear up to face a particularly difficult person. No matter how many times we pray and give our anxiety to God, sometimes it doesn’t go away until we actually face a situation.

    Sometimes it will never get easier, because the person won’t change, no matter how much love and grace you show them, and anxiety might be something we are going to experience every time, but I think of the verse, “Fear of man proves to be a snare, but he who trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” We can still do the right thing even though our feelings betray us.

    Now that I am done giving a fine sermon to myself, (Smiles) I guess I am going to have to go! But I truly wanted to affirm that this post came at just the right time, and I thank you for that!

    On a different note, that photo of you is absolutely gorgeous! Why wouldn’t he want to put up with those night terrors when he gets to wake up and see that lovely face every day:D ?!

    • Deb Weakly says

      Dear Leah, what a beautiful perspective! Fear of man does indeed bring a snare. I have struggled with that issue in the past. God is so good to take us as we are and to be patient with us. Thanks so much for your sweet words.

  7. Jill says

    Thank you for this word Deb…I needed it!! Whenever I read your post they are like a balm to my weary soul. I’m the first follower of Jesus in my family (a long line of wounded ones raised Catholic now turned atheists). Anyways, some days I seriously feel like I haven’t clue what I’m doing in motherhood, let alone raising them to love Jesus. It’s something I’ve really had to surrender daily to Him. It’s so not what I thought it would look like!! Thanks again for always sharing such wisdom and honesty!!!

    • Deb Weakly says

      Sweet Jill,
      I am so proud of you for your commitment to Christ. He is our true helper and the Lover of our souls. We are never alone.
      Thanks so much for your sweet words.


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