Inside my life this week…..

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Sarah and Joy, often share birthday celebration breakfasts–both in late May!

This above from two years ago–we will repeat it on Saturday morning. Both girls–presents, celebrating the day, special birthday dinner!

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This means I make lots and lots of cinnamon rolls in one month!

May is almost as busy and demanding for me as Decembers and Christmas. Really, it starts April 19 with Nathan’s birthday. Then Clay’s birthday and then Mother’s Day and then Sarah and then Joy. Whew, a lot of cinnamon rolls.  And we have so very many birthday traditions to keep. Why didn’t I consider spreading our birthdays out a little better when I was making babies! :)

These several days are not my norm, but welcoming a daughter home after her first year at college requires a celebration! (This is what she wrote on her wall about college yesterday: “

Thus ends my first year at Biola…
As I am zipping my last bag and poking my head out the door to say goodbye to friends for the summer, I am deeply thankful for such a beautiful year. This year has been full of kindred spirits, adventures, debate, missions conference, amazing professors, challenges, delights and filled to the brim with God’s gracious goodness. I cannot wait to see what lies ahead. 
So long, Fresh-more year! You have been good to me. 
Take me back to my mountains. — feeling blessed.”

So I had to make a special meal to celebrate her success at finishing her first year well–but first, I had 6 whole hours to breathe in my own life.

So, yesterday, my day to rest, I slept in until about 7:45, and I had 6 hours off for the first time in a gazillion years and was truly, truly grateful for each minute. Deciding to go out to breakfast with Sarah, since she will be leaving soon, was a gift to myself.

I split Eggs Benedict with Sarah at a favorite local 5 star hotel.  (The Broadmoor). I added extra hollandaise sauce to mine and it was delectable!

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Poached eggs on top of ham on top of a toasted English Muffin with lots of Hollandaise sauce! Yumm!

(My mom used to make this for Christmas breakfast.)

Rain and fog and mist made the day beautiful and mysterious. So we spent an hour sipping coffee in one of the hotel lobbies. (I have dubbed it my private lobby as I go there often to write! It has a cozy fireplace just behind this room view.)

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Our view looked out over the lake, the flowers, the swans, the wind blowing and dancing amongst the willows and blooming yellow branches across the lake. We sat there sipping coffee and listening to music and being quiet–for an hour! Luxury. Peace.

Looked, really looked and admired the gorgeous flower art all around us!

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Drove home, lit candles and played the new album Joel gave me for my birthday:

Yo Yo Ma plays Ennio Morricone

Breath-takingly beautiful and so very soothing. I have been playing it over and over the past few days. I discovered it on my Pandora channel.

I read one chapter in my book by Elizabeth Gouge–The Dean’s Watch. I always hate it when a book is over as the characters linger in my thoughts and emotions

Came home and straightened up the house, put a welcome sign up for Joy and placed candles and flowers in her room.

We (Sarah) made homemade chocolate chip cookies with pecans for Joy’s  homecoming. (The secret to fluffy chocolate chip cookies is to whip the butter and sugar and vanilla for about 5 minutes before adding the other goodies.)

Also, homemade potato and cheese soup and Spinach salad with strawberries, sliced almonds, feta cheese, and whole wheat rolls.

Tomorrow, we will go to a favorite greenhouse that is hosting an open house to locals for discount flowers and baskets of flowers for our porches and decks. Going with mama-daughter best friends and then lunch together after to catch up on life.

Saturday birthdays celebrated–

presents to wrap, cinnamon rolls to make, groceries to buy–and then there will be another week.

May your weekend be a blessed one. I pray the comfort of God will be real, through real people, for all of those precious ones all over the world going through such sad and challenging times. So many of you have filled my thoughts and prayers.

May your world, this weekend, be at peace.

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A Wise Woman Sleeps

Henry Maynell Rheam

“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.”

Proverbs 4:23

Responsibility can often pile high this time of year. Combined with tragic national news, an exceedingly busy lifestyle, constant demands from children, bills, mamas can  start to grumble and stew and spew, placing a lot of energy, worry and fear into the constantly demanding issues of our lives.  And then we fret. Often grumpiness and harshness overcomes our souls as a byproduct of the days we are living.

Fear. Fretting. Darkness. These can plague our inner hearts if we do not watch over our hearts.

 The last thing that seems productive when life is busy and overwhelming is to rest. Yet, rest may very well be the most strategic thing to do if we have a busy, full and demanding life.

When I was younger, there were times I thought life was so overwhelming and it seemed as I couldn’t make it as a mom and tears were close to my eyes. But I remember that a sweet friend of mine said, “Don’t think about it today. I am going to pick up your children and have them spend the night with me. You need to eat chocolate, watch a great, romantic movie, sleep for at least 10 hours, spend tomorrow at leisure–and housework is not allowed. Then do the same thing for one more day and come back when the weekend is over.  We will talk about how you are feeling.”

A miracle happened. Sleep was what I most needed. I felt so much better about my life, loved my children anew and found hope–all because I just needed a little break.

Without giving ourselves time to rest, we can end up with serious illness, exhaustion, bad attitudes and fist shaking faith aimed heavenly–and then fretting about our lives.

As I have said before, “Fretting leads only to evil doing.”

God put Sabbath Rest into the weeks of our lives with a purpose. I have found that when I believe and engage my heart in the goodness of God’s character, and put out of my mind, after praying, all that I am carrying and just seek to be still and find joy, I see the miracles bubbling up slowly, surely, as He, my Father, delights to provide.

However, a Martha heart is often wont to see the miracles, as she is so busy living in the whirlwind of her own meek provisions, she loses all hope and becomes a wretched nag.

The more exhausted I am with life, the more tense, grumpy and tight I become and it spills all over everyone else.

Finding myself at a juncture of exhaustion from giving all that I had the last few weeks, I find that somehow when I try to figure out all of the responsibilities of the next few months, which are huge, I am tempted to be overwhelmed.

Yet, from so many times like this in the past, I have learned a secret. My Prince Jesus comes to me at just the right time, but like the story of Sleeping Beauty, the prince comes, not when she is searching the horizon, pounding her fists, running the floor, but when she is doing nothing but resting.

Resting in Him, choosing peace and putting off responsibilities and recreating is sometimes such grand medicine for my soul, that after choosing to rest and to invest in fun and love and ease of life, my strength is renewed and all issues are able to be faced with grace. I know busyness is coming, but I will face it with courage later if I rest today.

And so today, my plan is to go back to bed, to pace leisurely through the pathway of the next few days, to sip and really taste my coffee  and my tea!–And, to just sit and listen to my sweet ones at home, and focus on the beauty of their light filled eyes, to stay in comfy clothes all day, to read and pray, and then maybe to rest again, because I know that while I am resting, my Prince is already coming to my rescue.

Peace, be still, the Lord is near.

The Civilization of Nations Begins at Home

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Anchise Picchi

“Does not wisdom call,

And understanding lift up her voice?

On top of the heights beside the way,

Where the paths meet, she takes her stand;

Beside the gates, at the opening to the city,

At the entrance of the doors, she cries out:

To you, O men, I call,

And my voice is to the sons of men.

O naive ones, understand prudence;

And, O fools, understand wisdom.

Listen, for I will speak noble things;

And the opening of my lips will reveal right things.” ~Proverbs 8:1-6

 It’s always a joy when all my children find their way back to the nest, and this week of birthdays and  celebrating Rachael and Nathan’s engagement was no exception. Seems we have had a constant stream of meals eaten, dishes washed, and then repeating the routines again and again.

 Rousing discussions this weekend in our home with many friends who are in our lives and have different opinions about all the issues, as well as opinions about movies, church, books, actors, disasters and life. More serious discussions have stimulated our ideas as we talked  about how to reach a post-modern culture, about what is really important to the Lord and what is the balance between ideals and grace, passion and redemption.

 It has been good as always, for me to enter the world of the insightful thoughts and wisdom of my thinking and reading children who are now full-hearted adults,  and see how they think and to ask what my part is in offering truth in a way that can be understood. I see all of the input I receive from differing points of view as ways that God prepares me to be a better thinker and more insightful into the souls and ways of people and ultimately as a steward of His messages.

 I have spent much time pondering what the role of motherhood has played in the issues that rage in our country today. We are all busy and live in a hectic, fast-paced culture. Yet for every “advance” it seems there is a price that must be paid, a cost to battling in spiritual realms, whether we are aware of it or not.

 The vision I see is this: if mothers rise to be the gatekeepers, making their homes places of excellence, cultivating love for each other as well as reverence and worship of God, spending personal time teaching and discipling their children, keeping them from worshiping the idol of television and serving them through this training and nurture and giving up of her own time, there will be hope.

 Then a civilization will be born where the whole culture will be populated with adults who have great souls, a call to the Kingdom of God, a passion to do what is right, a desire to protect the weak, and an honest moral character that is the foundation of right decisions made in politics, medicine, government, media and the arts.

 Yes, it requires great personal sacrifice. But in the battle between evil and good, the allegiance between our commitment to our God or our bowing to Satan has always required sacrifice. Evil is never passive and never takes a break–and neither can God’s chosen ones cease to work tirelessly to be about His business.

 When mothers abandon this great and important responsibility, there is a greater tendency for children to become the kind of adults who can be self-centered and self-serving; under-developed and ineffective without intentional training, –those who can overlook unrighteousness without any pang of conscience—because that conscience has never been developed. They become the kind of adults who can passively let others take responsibility for our government and country–to accept and validate those who would promise the moon even though the moon isn’t available in reality. When a person has no convictions, he cannot operate his life in God’s strength. It is moms who help to develop foundations of righteousness in their children’s souls.

 For this gatekeeping to occur there must be hundreds—thousands—of dinners made, laundry loads run, backs scratched and cookies baked. There must be watercolor projects and messes, hikes and games of hide and seek, money spent on wonderful life-giving books and concerts and the theatre. It will not happen in the absence of a cost.

 Time spent ministering to our children is time well spent because that investment grants us the door to their hearts. When they are soft to us because we have ministered to their needs, their minds and hearts will be soft to hear our values, our convictions, and our guidance. Moms, the way you invest your life today will indeed have a great impact on history. We need to buck up, strengthen the areas that are weak, and decide to accept the work load of small children with joy, as would please our heavenly Father. The cultivating and raising of great souls is of the utmost importance.  Your life is making a difference. Take time in the word, take time to read those books which call you to excellence, spend time praying with friends of like mind–and don’t give up!

 “For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.” Hebrews 10:36

 Think about a special time you could have with your children that would soften their hearts toward you. What would you want to share with them during that time? Put it on the calendar!

 BE SURE TO JOIN ME TODAY AT MOMHEART.ORG WHERE I AM SHARING A WONDERFUL PORK ROAST RECIPE THAT I MADE UP LONG AGO–A FAVORITE FEAST OF OUR CHILDREN.

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