The Civilization of Nations Begins at Home

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Anchise Picchi

“Does not wisdom call,

And understanding lift up her voice?

On top of the heights beside the way,

Where the paths meet, she takes her stand;

Beside the gates, at the opening to the city,

At the entrance of the doors, she cries out:

To you, O men, I call,

And my voice is to the sons of men.

O naive ones, understand prudence;

And, O fools, understand wisdom.

Listen, for I will speak noble things;

And the opening of my lips will reveal right things.” ~Proverbs 8:1-6

 It’s always a joy when all my children find their way back to the nest, and this week of birthdays and  celebrating Rachael and Nathan’s engagement was no exception. Seems we have had a constant stream of meals eaten, dishes washed, and then repeating the routines again and again.

 Rousing discussions this weekend in our home with many friends who are in our lives and have different opinions about all the issues, as well as opinions about movies, church, books, actors, disasters and life. More serious discussions have stimulated our ideas as we talked  about how to reach a post-modern culture, about what is really important to the Lord and what is the balance between ideals and grace, passion and redemption.

 It has been good as always, for me to enter the world of the insightful thoughts and wisdom of my thinking and reading children who are now full-hearted adults,  and see how they think and to ask what my part is in offering truth in a way that can be understood. I see all of the input I receive from differing points of view as ways that God prepares me to be a better thinker and more insightful into the souls and ways of people and ultimately as a steward of His messages.

 I have spent much time pondering what the role of motherhood has played in the issues that rage in our country today. We are all busy and live in a hectic, fast-paced culture. Yet for every “advance” it seems there is a price that must be paid, a cost to battling in spiritual realms, whether we are aware of it or not.

 The vision I see is this: if mothers rise to be the gatekeepers, making their homes places of excellence, cultivating love for each other as well as reverence and worship of God, spending personal time teaching and discipling their children, keeping them from worshiping the idol of television and serving them through this training and nurture and giving up of her own time, there will be hope.

 Then a civilization will be born where the whole culture will be populated with adults who have great souls, a call to the Kingdom of God, a passion to do what is right, a desire to protect the weak, and an honest moral character that is the foundation of right decisions made in politics, medicine, government, media and the arts.

 Yes, it requires great personal sacrifice. But in the battle between evil and good, the allegiance between our commitment to our God or our bowing to Satan has always required sacrifice. Evil is never passive and never takes a break–and neither can God’s chosen ones cease to work tirelessly to be about His business.

 When mothers abandon this great and important responsibility, there is a greater tendency for children to become the kind of adults who can be self-centered and self-serving; under-developed and ineffective without intentional training, –those who can overlook unrighteousness without any pang of conscience—because that conscience has never been developed. They become the kind of adults who can passively let others take responsibility for our government and country–to accept and validate those who would promise the moon even though the moon isn’t available in reality. When a person has no convictions, he cannot operate his life in God’s strength. It is moms who help to develop foundations of righteousness in their children’s souls.

 For this gatekeeping to occur there must be hundreds—thousands—of dinners made, laundry loads run, backs scratched and cookies baked. There must be watercolor projects and messes, hikes and games of hide and seek, money spent on wonderful life-giving books and concerts and the theatre. It will not happen in the absence of a cost.

 Time spent ministering to our children is time well spent because that investment grants us the door to their hearts. When they are soft to us because we have ministered to their needs, their minds and hearts will be soft to hear our values, our convictions, and our guidance. Moms, the way you invest your life today will indeed have a great impact on history. We need to buck up, strengthen the areas that are weak, and decide to accept the work load of small children with joy, as would please our heavenly Father. The cultivating and raising of great souls is of the utmost importance.  Your life is making a difference. Take time in the word, take time to read those books which call you to excellence, spend time praying with friends of like mind–and don’t give up!

 “For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.” Hebrews 10:36

 Think about a special time you could have with your children that would soften their hearts toward you. What would you want to share with them during that time? Put it on the calendar!

 BE SURE TO JOIN ME TODAY AT MOMHEART.ORG WHERE I AM SHARING A WONDERFUL PORK ROAST RECIPE THAT I MADE UP LONG AGO–A FAVORITE FEAST OF OUR CHILDREN.

She said yes! I am inheriting a new daughter! :)

426729_10151235960126879_1362671114_nOn my 22nd birthday, my heart raced with excitement as I anticipated my handsome date picking me up for an evening of birthday surprises. Nathan hadn’t given me any hints about what we would be doing for my birthday, but I told him that he at least needed to let me know how I should dress. He told me to wear the “nicest dress I owned”, so clearly, I needed to go shopping.
I took my time browsing the colorful threads in Charlotte Russe. My eyes were seeking the perfect birthday dress. Much to my enchantment, all of the dresses were on sale that day, and I wound up selecting a light yellow strapless dress that I just felt wonderful in. (Feeling comfortable and beautiful is always crucial for the birthday girl).

Before Nathan picked me up, I did my makeup, put on that birthday dress with my favorite wedges, and threw my brown hair into a sock bun. When I stepped into his tan Ford Focus, Nathan told me that at every stop, he was going to give me a birthday present that symbolized what he loves about me. First, Nathan gave me a nice moisturizer. He explained that while it may be shallow, he loves my pretty face and my beauty. My heart was already filled with joy and love, and that was only the beginning!

As we began our mystery trip, I had no idea where we were going (I was just so thrilled to be anywhere with him.) We pulled up to a gorgeous Italian restaurant,Cafe De Sol, which immediately made me smile from ear to ear. Nathan tried to take me there on our first date, but I panicked and wouldn’t allow him to take me because I thought it was too nice & too expensive. Little did I know that two and a half years later we would finally have that date.

My second birthday gift from Nathan was a gorgeous iPhone clutch that can hold your phone and function as a wallet as well. (I had been eye balling these for a while). Nathan explained that the gift was for my smart phone, representing how he loves my mind & loves my intelligence. (I know-he’s a keeper.)
We had an amazing, delicious, romantic dinner, and then we were off to continue the journey.

Next, Nathan gave me a super cute black infinity dress (it can turn into a few different dresses, which is perfect for me since I have a hard time deciding what to wear). He told me that this gift represented how I bring style into every aspect of my life.

At this point, I was already having the most perfect night. Then, Nathan drove us up to Mulholland Drive. We got out of the car to look out over the city of Los Angeles.

The city where we met.
The city where we struggled together.
The city where we overcame together. The city where we both felt God calling us to impact.
The city where we fell in love.

My dress blew in the warm, evening breeze. Nathan ran back to the car quickly to grab his phone. When he returned, he was playing one of my favorite love songs from my favorite musical (“The Next Ten Minutes” from “The Last Five Years”). At this point, I should have had it all figured out. The song is about a guyproposing. Still, my mind was just thinking about what a romantic birthday he was creating for me.

As my eyes gazed out into the city lights, I turned my head to the right and saw the man of my dreams down on one knee with a small jewelry box in his hand. First, I was in complete shock. I didn’t know if he was serious. I couldn’t wrap my mind around the fact that it was really happening.
When it finally set in, I couldn’t stop the tears from pouring out (and I’m not really a pretty cryer). Nathan expressed his love to me and asked me to do life with him forever…to marry him. After immediately embracing him, and still being quite shocked, I finally got the word “yes” to explode out of me with pure joy.

I couldn’t believe how perfect the diamond was. It was truly my dream ring…everything I had ever hoped for since I was a little girl. A beautiful, classic white gold band with the most incredible, gorgeous, princess cut diamond I had ever laid my eyes on. I couldn’t stop staring at it and realizing all that it represented. Nathan also handed me a bridal magazine and white roses (yes-he is the best).

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I’ve honestly never felt that kind of happiness in my life. I’ve also never felt so at peace. Even though I was surprised and insanely excited, it just felt so right…so natural…and exactly where we were supposed to be.
I spent my entire life being the girl who dreamed of her prince charming, but never really believed it would happen. I spent so much time feeling unworthy…unvalued…ordinary. Since the day I met Nathan, I never felt deserving of his attention or love. He is such an incredible, godly, amazing, handsome, talented man. Realizing that he was making a choice to spend his life with me, through the good & the bad, even with all of my flaws, with everything I’m not…I realized that I was getting a fairytale ending.

I said yes…and this is only the beginning of my very favorite love story.

20130520-013823.jpgSo very very happy to have sweet Rachael enter our family. Finding such a kindred spirit is a real gift to all of us. We love our Nathan and Rachael and pray God’s blessings of love, wisdom, grace and joy.

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Sarah Mae and me on Life Today! Watch our interview!

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How fun it was to see so many great parents at the conference in Nashville last weekend. Yet, I met so many who said what Sarah Mae and I had tweeted earlier this year when we launched our new book, Desperate. So many of us thought we had motherhood figured out–we didn’t think it would be that hard. And then we were caught in the mire of the myriad of every day life details–the giving, giving, giving.

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Often, I was so busy and sleep deprived, that I did become agitated with the exhaustion and also the loneliness and feeling of being invisibility. I was so caught up in mothering, that I lost a bit of myself and my soft heart.

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Sometimes, I would expect my children to be more mature than they could possibly be at their young ages. I held high ideals and wanted them to not need me so much, until the Lord gently touched my heart and said, “When did you stop sinning? Don’t  demand so much of your young children, focus on loving them instead!

Our heart all along in writing this book was for moms to not feel alone. Please join us this week on Jame’s Robison’s show, Life Today, and watch our interview. We would love for you to join us!

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And join us as we launch a new look on Momheart.org where we hope to be adding new training, small group guides and of course great inspiration for moms every day!

Busy busy week for me–two birthdays, kids home and more coming home and life. I pray you have a great week.

SEE YOU AT LIFETODAY WITH JAMES ROBINSON!

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